If something isn’t working for you….change it. Only you know if it’s not working and only you can change it.
It’s like cleaning only you are making way for newer, better things.
Look at your life/work/relationships etc. We constantly grow and with each experience we become wiser and stronger. Nothing in put in your pathway that you cannot handle. You have all of the tools within you – as I have learned.
From the ages of 0 to 14, I was an introvert, shy, quite character. That didn’t work for me – I got pushed around too much. From 15 to 25, I was an angry person with lots of hate and dissapointment attached. From 25-33.5, I was an extrovert, high achieving, no nonsense kind of person who didn’t let anything get in my way. I cleared out all of the shit and made some valuable choices – I set my platform. Now at 34, I just go with the flow and try to give back what I learned. I’m kind and considerate but at the same time, I don’t take any crap from anyone. I’m free.
Some people just have to go through the rough to get to the smooth. I am one of these.
I have this book called The Gift of Peace – created by the Brahma Kumaris. Here is a page I want to share with you:
Desires cause peace to disappear. You think that acquiring things will make you feel secure, but the reality is that the more you have the more fear there usually is of losing it, and the further you are from peace. Desires are the cause of all conflicts. When you want something and you cannot get it, you become frustrated. Learning to be free from desires is learning how to be peaceful.
This is certainly a lesson I have learned of late. I have finally learned to stop wanting, planning and controlling everything and let it all go. It is liberating. It’s wasn’t easy to change but I did it.
I truly believe that you create all of your behaviors and you all have the power to change them and create new ones as you shape and grow.
About a year ago, I was quite unhappy with myself. I had become lazy and generally demotivated. Normally I am quite active and positive so I couldn’t understand where it came from. I got sick of feeling like this so I decided to do something about it. I made a list of how I was feeling and stuck it onto my bedroom wall. Everyday for ages and still sometimes now, I read it to remind myself of the behavior I want within myself. I wrote:
- Feeling lazy and incompetent
- Brain not being trained and am exposed to trash repeating in my mind – I was watching lots of shit TV and because that’s was all I was seeing, I had the storeylines going around in my head, living in soapland – not growing, not learning, not looking after my body and soul and my most importantly my mind.
- Lack of focus and intelligence – I know I can be better
- Itching on my skin – a sign of stress. It was getting to me physically
- Body not is shape – need to be more active
- I’m 33 not 63
- Need to stop wasting my life away and get up in the mornings
- I DON’T LIKE WHAT IS HAPPENING TO ME – IF I DID, I WOULDN’T BE WRITING THIS
- Don’t want a repeat of my back problem where on two occasions I have woken up paralysed from the neck down.
So from that day onwards, I started getting up at 615am and went for a swim before work – usually 4-5 times a week. I also started reading all of my motivational books and listening to my audiobooks, which I personally find a much easier way of reading books. I stopped watching crap TV. I started making more of an effort by cooking fresh meals at home. I also find time in the days to take a moment for myself and just breathe.
I look at the list now and I smile – I changed my behaviours and I have a daily reminder to tell me so. I am much stronger mentally, physically and emotionally. I shared this with you to show you that anyone can make a change. You have to want to be in a different space, breathing different air, thinking different thoughts. I have also learned that you have to really be sick and tired of your situation if you want to change it – at least I do. Maybe because I’m a bit lazy sometimes.
Hope this helps. You can do anything if you put your mind to it. We really don’t appreciate how strong we can be just by using our focus.
If you need help, listen to a few speaches from Tony Robbins – he will soon pick you up!
This is also great – its slow enough for you to take a moment to think about the words and totally absorb them. Their website is also great – details given at the end.
There is no doubt that we are all currently at the crossroads of extraordinary change. It almost seems like the universe is shifting. Everyday consciousness is experiencing a total upheaval that is radiating through our entire planet ranging from the environment, politics, global markets to entertainment/etc.
Change now seems to be the constant mantra being directly sent to us from the universe itself. Every layer of our reality is currently being transformed in some shape or form. We are in a time of profound transformation, so it’s essential for us to stay connect to our true inner selves and not be overtaken by the fears that change naturally brings.
Many of us are currently caught up in our day to day dramas of life, we forget that we, as humans, exist on so many different energy levels. It’s vitally important for us to take a little time to surrender to the greater truth that dwells within each of us. It is essential that we not allow fear to get in the way of this deep knowing. Become present to the truth within you…