I found this on a great site called The Happy Self. Some great stuff on there if you have some time.
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I went to a talk at the Global Retreat Centre earlier this week presented by a lovely woman, Brigitte from the Brahma Kumaris.
One thing she said that really hit home for me was that whatever you go though in life, if you don’t absorb it and accept it, it will almost certainly be detrimental to you. Your not willing to accept this thing will create emotions which will lead to a series of though patterns which will lead to your reality. So from now, I am going to try and just accept whatever happens.
Brigitte also talked about watching your thought patterns – observing them from the outside and judging whether they are coming from the real you or your ego.
I personally find these talks fantastic and I always come away a little wiser and calmer. I would recommend these to anyone and everyone. The Brahma Kumaris is by far one of the most wonderful, giving organisations I have ever come across. many times when I have not been right, I have gone to one of these and it has put things into perspective for me. Also the fact that they don’t charge makes this service accessible to all – which I think is so great. There are way too many organisations that have great courses and workshops on enhancing ourself but they can charge hundreds of pounds which immediately limits their audience.
Our wonderful bodies have a great way of naturally making us happy – chemicals released in the back of our heads called endorphins.
This is why when many people over the world pray, bowing their heads is included at some point. I am a Sikh and when we go to the Temple to worship, the first thing we do is bow our heads down to God. It is done in Islam and Hinduism too. I would be interested to learn of any other religions who also do this.
Yoga is also great because you bow many times and can release lots in one go. I had this realisation because I did some Sun Solutes this morning and felt exceptionally great today. I wondered what was different today. Then the penny dropped!
Try it. Get on your knees and bow down and get up about 10 times a day. See how you feel.
As usual from the Brahma Kumaris:
Happiness is a daily decision
And oh boy…………………have I realised this recently. Even people like me fall off track now and again. It’s only when I go back and see how much I have grown and what tools I have gathered along the way, that I realise that I am only human. Just because I am spiritually aware, doesnt mean I wont be touched by hardship and problems. I have re-learned to be happy and kind in these last few months – something I had come to forget as I began to get swallowed up in all of my problems. This is a superficial life – I am here to learn and evolve. I know that now.
I admire Dr Holden’s work because of it’s simplistic approach. All of his work revolves around a God given birth right – and that is to be happy. We all have it inside us. Everyone and everyone can relate to that.
Quote taken from the “About Us” section on their website:
The Happiness Project is a remarkable success-story that continues to unfold day by day. The cast of The Happiness Project includes top psychologists, life coaches, business leaders, spiritual ministers, leading physicians, great musicians, actors and poets – all of whom are fired with a passion to serve and inspire. Formed in 1996, we are rapidly approaching our tenth year in existence. A big thank you to everyone who has participated in our growth.
There is an abundance of information and many tools to go through on his website. They do Public Talks, Workshops, and Health & Wellbeing Seminars, Success Intelligence Masterclasses & Coaching and lots more.
Their prices range from as little as £10 for a Talk to a few hundred pounds for a Workshop. I would have been interested in a talk soon but it’s the night before my birthday so I can’t. But I will try and attend a Talk or Seminar soon and give you some feedback.
I will always be impressed by people like this who dedicate their lives to wellbeing causes. Of all the things they could do with their time on Earth, they choose this.
10 ways to find happiness by Dr Robert Holden on Oprah’s site
Excellent advice from Dr Robert Holden:
I’ve sometimes found it really hard being an Indian female, born in the UK, particularly to very traditional parents who are adamant to hold on to their cultural values.
On one side, it’s been hard to tell my Mum, siblings, extended family and any one else who wants to know…that I don’t want my life partner chosen by anyone but myself. And that the only thing I will look at is his heart. Not his financial or educational status or family status….yada yada. None of that means anything to me. I’m more interested in what we build together moving forward.
Also to live independently has had its challenges. For the first few years of living away from my family, my Mum would ask me to come back home pretty much on a weekly basis. It was really hard for her to accept. It was hard for me too but I had to stick to my guns and make it on my own.
It’s also been hard to fit in with the non-Asian crowd. I have been asked my fair share of patronising questions about Indian food, Indian clothes or arranged marriages. I used to get annoyed and snap at people many years ago. Now I calmly and gently put my point across and explain to people that I am not a stereotype.
There were moments when I felt wrong and that I didn’t fit in anywhere. The first time I went to India was about 4 years ago so really, how Indian am I? I hadn’t even seen the country that so many people were judging me on.
There was a time when I totally rejected my culture because I was so angry at the lack of freedom – particularly for women. Everything was dictated to me and I didn’t see that as fair. It took years to slowly go back and incorporate the bits I am proud of and forget about the rest. It took a lot of work to get where I am today.
It is important to add that there have been a good number of fantastic people who I have met in this life who have seen past all of that. Those who have seen me for me. I remember reading somewhere an Afro Caribbean Gentleman saying “before anything, I am human.” I loved that and quoted it many times.
One of my friends said to me once “Suky, I forget that you are Indian sometimes.” She thought that was an awful thing to say to me but I thought it was a compliment. It meant to me that she saw me for my insides (my heart), not my outside (the colour of my skin or a preconceived notion in her head).
Anyway, I pushed through all of that and am so much happier. I’m free. I’m not a bad person. I just live my life on my terms – as any adult should. No one have any right over any other adult. Everyone comes with their own life plan and own kismet.
You must feel confident enough within yourself to follow your own dreams.
You must be willing to make sacrifices.
You must be capable of changing and rearranging your priorities so that your final goal can be achieved.
Sometimes, familiarity and comfort need to be challenged.
There are times when you must take a few extra chances and create your own realities.
Be strong enough to at least try to make your life better.
Be confident enough that you won’t settle for a compromise just to get by.
Appreciate yourself by allowing yourself the opportunities to grow, develop, and find your true sense of purpose in this life.
Don’t stand in someone else’s shadow when it’s your sunlight that should lead the way.