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From a great site called – Life as a Human…

Life is generally thought of in terms of gain, not loss. Gaining a diploma, a job, a spouse, children, a house, a car or two, and toys is fun and fulfilling. Loss is a negative conception; unhappiness blooms and grows from loss of a job, money, spouse, etc. Without loss however, there is no gain. Lose money and realize it’s better than loss of health. Lose a spouse and know that love can arrive by many roads and be stronger than the first love. Lose a house, a job, a car, and realize that happiness can grow under many roofs, and jobs are there for anyone willing to walk or ride a bike to them. Lose a friend or two, and come to know yourself as your best friend. Lose your heart and faith, and gain a void where new faith, and a new heart can grow.

A teen I once knew well, idealistically pure and clear, saw this before I did. When I was sixteen I knew that a person could lose everything, and still live. Lose a stomach, gain mobility, and see those feet which took you on journeys before now, and can take you on adventures still.

Lots of other great stuff on there with over 70 authors from all walks of life.

The Great Illusion…

Ok so you need to take some time out if you want to do this. This is a beautiful piece of work. I personally really liked this and it was worth spending the time to go through it.

All you have to do is click on the link and enjoy – The Great Illusion


Worth a read….

Thanks to Holstee for the picture. Inspirational to say the least. Great products too. Check it out. If it is difficult to read, just click on the link.

Life = Risk…

Love it!

Guide To How To Lead A Successful Life…

I liked this:

Thought for the Day……..

As usual from the Brahma Kumaris:

Happiness is a daily decision

And oh boy…………………have I realised this recently. Even people like me fall off track now and again. It’s only when I go back and see how much I have grown and what tools I have gathered along the way, that I realise that I am only human. Just because I am spiritually aware, doesnt mean I wont be touched by hardship and problems. I have re-learned to be happy and kind in these last few months – something I had come to forget as I began to get swallowed up in all of my problems. This is a superficial life – I am here to learn and evolve. I know that now.

Change Your Thinking…….

My Friend Fedz sent me this – it resonated well with me………

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.

His bed was next to the room’s only window.

The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.

The men talked for hours on end.

They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and colour of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake.

Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every colour and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by.

Although the other man could not hear the band – he could see it in his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days, weeks and months passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.

She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside.
He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed.

It faced a blank wall.

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.

She said, ‘Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.’


There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.

Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.

If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can’t buy.

‘Today is a gift, that is why it is called The Present.’

How To Live In The Moment………………

Rachel Shields writes a column in The Independent called Life Support which I rather like. Here is todays…

Focus on what you’re doing – In his best-selling book The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle argues that, if you are completely conscious of the present moment, you won’t have to rely on external things for happiness, and will discover an inner joy. While many are sceptical about the promises of self-help experts, the idea of being happy in the present – free from worries about the past or fears over the future – is undoubtedly appealing. Tolle suggests that a simple way of reconnecting to the “now” is to think about your breathing, or to spend time contemplating nature.
Slow down – Do you eat breakfast while listening to the radio and reading the newspaper? It may be a familiar scene, but trying to do five things at once makes it difficult to fully enjoy any of the activities you are involved in. Slow down, taking your time over things that you normally rush, and you will find that you are calmer and more focused on the moment. 

Accept your lifeMany of us are plagued by the idea that there is something better we could be doing. If you find yourself looking at a beautiful sunset alone, and saying to yourself, “This is so romantic – it would be so nice if only I was here with so-and-so,” you are preventing yourself from enjoying the experience as it is. Try to avoid allowing such thoughts to distract you from the present.

 Let go – You can’t change the past, so there is not much point stewing over things that have already happened. Similarly, try and stop worrying about the future. Many of us spend a lot of time fretting about what might happen, and mulling over potential scenarios in our mind. While this is a fairly common way of preparing ourselves for bad things that might occur, it wastes a lot of emotional energy – energy which could be better directed into the “now”.

What It’s Like Being An Indian Girl Growing Up In The UK……

I’ve sometimes found it really hard being an Indian female, born in the UK, particularly to very traditional parents who are adamant to hold on to their cultural values.

On one side, it’s been hard to tell my Mum, siblings, extended family and any one else who wants to know…that I don’t want my life partner chosen by anyone but myself. And that the only thing I will look at is his heart. Not his financial or educational status or family status….yada yada.  None of that means anything to me. I’m more interested in what we build together moving forward.  

Also to live independently has had its challenges. For the first few years of living away from my family, my Mum would ask me to come back home pretty much on a weekly basis. It was really hard for her to accept. It was hard for me too but I had to stick to my guns and make it on my own.  

It’s also been hard to fit in with the non-Asian crowd. I have been asked my fair share of patronising questions about Indian food, Indian clothes or arranged marriages. I used to get annoyed and snap at people many years ago. Now I calmly and gently put my point across and explain to people that I am not a stereotype.

There were moments when I felt wrong and that I didn’t fit in anywhere. The first time I went to India was about 4 years ago so really, how Indian am I? I hadn’t even seen the country that so many people were judging me on.

There was a time when I totally rejected my culture because I was so angry at the lack of freedom – particularly for women. Everything was dictated to me and I didn’t see that as fair. It took years to slowly go back and incorporate the bits I am proud of and forget about the rest. It took a lot of work to get where I am today.

It is important to add that there have been a good number of fantastic people who I have met in this life who have seen past all of that. Those who have seen me for me. I remember reading somewhere an Afro Caribbean Gentleman saying “before anything, I am human.” I loved that and quoted it many times.

One of my friends said to me once “Suky, I forget that you are Indian sometimes.” She thought that was an awful thing to say to me but I thought it was a compliment. It meant to me that she saw me for my insides (my heart), not my outside (the colour of my skin or a preconceived notion in her head).

Anyway, I pushed through all of that and am so much happier. I’m free. I’m not a bad person. I just live my life on my terms – as any adult should. No one have any right over any other adult. Everyone comes with their own life plan and own kismet.

It is your birth right to be happy

If something isn’t working for you….change it. Only you know if it’s not working and only you can change it.

It’s like cleaning only you are making way for newer, better things.

Look at your life/work/relationships etc. We constantly grow and with each experience we become wiser and stronger. Nothing in put in your pathway that you cannot handle. You have all of the tools within you – as I have learned.

From the ages of 0 to 14, I was an introvert, shy, quite character. That didn’t work for me – I got pushed around too much. From 15 to 25, I was an angry person with lots of hate and dissapointment attached. From 25-33.5, I was an extrovert, high achieving, no nonsense kind of person who didn’t let anything get in my way. I cleared out all of the shit and made some valuable choices – I set my platform. Now at 34, I just go with the flow and try to give back what I learned. I’m kind and considerate but at the same time, I don’t take any crap from anyone. I’m free.  

Some people just have to go through the rough to get to the smooth. I am one of these.


Ever ask yourself if your life is normal or not?

We think the following quote from Paul McKenna really helps in defining what normal is:

“Some people experience hardly any good feelings during the course of a day. Because that’s what they are used to, they think it’s natural. What I point out to them is that a lack of joy in life isn’t natural – it’s normal.

But normal is just another way of saying ‘what usually happens’. In some parts of the world, poverty is normal. Children dying of hunger is normal. Cruelty to animals is normal.

The point is, normal doesn’t mean good, and it certainly doesn’t mean natural. Natural is what you’re designed for – and, simply put, human beings are designed for happiness.”

photo by: job earth (via flickr)

How to deal with the changing world

There is no doubt that we are all currently at the crossroads of extraordinary change. It almost seems like the universe is shifting. Everyday consciousness is experiencing a total upheaval that is radiating through our entire planet ranging from the environment, politics, global markets to entertainment/etc.

Change now seems to be the constant mantra being directly sent to us from the universe itself. Every layer of our reality is currently being transformed in some shape or form. We are in a time of profound transformation, so it’s essential for us to stay connect to our true inner selves and not be overtaken by the fears that change naturally brings.

Many of us are currently caught up in our day to day dramas of life, we forget that we, as humans, exist on so many different energy levels. It’s vitally important for us to take a little time to surrender to the greater truth that dwells within each of us. It is essential that we not allow fear to get in the way of this deep knowing. Become present to the truth within you…


How to know what your true purpose in life is

The following is a beautiful quote taken from the book: Conversations with god by Neale Donald Walsch. We feel it’s insightful and truly provides a great answer to the purpose of life.

“There is only one purpose for all of life, and it is for you and all that lives to experience fullest glory. Everything else you say, think, or do is attendant to that function. There is nothing else for your soul to do, and nothing else your soul wants to do.

The wonder of this purpose is that it is never-ending. An ending is a limitation, and God’s purpose is without such a boundary. Should there come a moment in which you experience yourself in your fullest glory, you will in that instant imagine an ever more greater glory to fulfill. The more you are, the more you can become, and the more you can become, the more you can yet be.

The deepest secret is that life is not a process of discovery, but a process of creation.

You are not discovering yourself, but creating yourself anew. Seek, therefore, not to find out Who You Are, seek to determine Who You Want to Be.”

photo by: alex grey

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