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Something Better Around The Corner…….

Whenever I have tried to get something and it has not come through, I have tended to get frustrated. Dream job, car, flat etc. So now I have come to thinking that there is a reason for everything and looking back, more often than not, there has been a reason why that thing didn’t come to me. I have usually had a better alternative come through instead.

Hindsight is a truly wonderful thing.

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Change Your Thinking…….

My Friend Fedz sent me this – it resonated well with me………

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.

His bed was next to the room’s only window.

The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.

The men talked for hours on end.

They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and colour of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake.

Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every colour and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by.

Although the other man could not hear the band – he could see it in his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days, weeks and months passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.

She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside.
He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed.

It faced a blank wall.

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.

She said, ‘Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.’

Epilogue:

There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.

Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.

If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can’t buy.

‘Today is a gift, that is why it is called The Present.’

Perspective……………

The Eden ProjectI used to get very frustrated if I were to be caught behind a very slow driver on a single track road – which where I live would happens quite often. It would annoy me when people would drive 30 mhp in a 50 zone for example. My thoughts would slowly wind me up and that would come out in some form of road rage.

I have grown up a bit since then.

Now I look at the same situation but through a different perspective. Maybe the slow driver in front is protecting me from an accident or collision up ahead. Maybe the place I am going needs a bit more time to get ready for me. Maybe the driver in front of me has just passed his/her test or has a pregnant woman in the car, or small children and is just being cautious. It’s not all about me. It’s about the universe and what it deems to be right at the right time.

This is one example of how I have changed my tunnel visioned thinking old patterns and adopted more of a “Chess Players” way of thinking. I weigh up every different perspective that can arise out of that certain situation and then go for the one that is appropriate for that scenario, at that time and the one that feels right for me.

This perspective is much better than the old one.

So maybe you should also have a go. The next time your are to make a decision or process a thought, take your initial one and put it to one side. Think of all of the other variable scenario’s that could arise from this same decision or thought. Once you have weighted them all up, is your choice the same as you would have selected the first time around? If so, you are on track and your thought process is aligned. If it is different, take different perspectives into account from now on. Learn more about yourself.

The Eden Project

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